Queer Community
Intimate Partner Violence
Intimate partner violence, often called domestic violence, is a pattern of behaviors where one partner seeks power and control over the other.
Although Intimate Partner Violence happens in the straight community as well, there are some specific behaviors that should serve as red flags in the Queer community.
A relationship can still be abusive and dangerous even if a partner never hits you. There are many types of abuse, including financial, emotional, sexual, and physical.
Warning Signs of Intimate Partner Violence
Threatening to “out” you in order to get you to do something or behave in a certain way
Using your fear of the police or legal system to keep you from calling 911, filing an Emergency Protective Order, giving true statements, or pressing charges
Preventing you from receiving adequate medical care or destroying your medications
Telling you no one else would want to be with someone like you
Isolating you from your friends, family, or community
Monitoring your phone usage, texts, emails, social media, or snail mail
Accusing you of having affairs or cheating
Hitting, slapping, kicking, biting, shoving, choking, or grabbing during an argument
Coercing you into doing things you do not want to do sexually
Preventing you from having or keeping a job or education
Threatening to hurt or kill themselves if you leave or if you do not comply with their wishes
Blaming you for their violence or saying it didn’t happen
If you or someone you know is experiencing any of these warning signs, it is important to remember that no one deserves to feel unsafe or be abused. The Center for Women and Families is here to help all people who have been impacted by intimate partner violence or sexual assault.
If you or someone you know is in need of support, we're here for you. Connect with our advocates 24/7 for confidential help and resources.